Have you ever really thought about how you speak to yourself?
Are you praising yourself, giving yourself a pat on the back, loving yourself, looking in the mirror and being proud of who you see?
Or, like most of us, are you condemning yourself. Telling yourself that you’re not good enough, pretty enough, young enough, talented enough. Are you looking in the mirror and pointing out to yourself all your flaws and how you wish you looked better?
We don’t realize it, but we hurt ourselves far more than anyone else can ever hurt us. We don’t realize that what we say to ourselves, what we think about ourselves, that’s the most that anyone else can ever think about us. Though it’s true another person may be saying to you, “You look beautiful today…” In your heart, if you don’t believe it, because you have said too many times to yourself, “I’m disgusting, I wish I were more pretty,” than you won’t even hear when a person gives you a compliment, you’ve already condemned yourself.
The energy that comes from within you is what others receive from you. If you are negative towards yourself, people sense that, and it makes them negative about you. Conversely, if you have positive energy, and you really love yourself, others will love you and want to be around you because your energy is so positive and people, especially in these times, crave positive energy.
I have come to realize one thing about myself….I need to sincerely work on this. I am a very positive and uplifting person…but only for other people. I have started really listening to what I say to myself, and it’s not pleasant. I’m never happy enough with how I look. My writing is never quite good enough, my house never clean enough, and on and on….I think I’ve become very good at putting out a “false positive energy.” I can seem like a very nice positive person, but on the inside I’m not feeling it.
So if you are struggling like me, let’s start today to really listen to ourselves. And when you catch yourself saying something negative to yourself, stop for a moment, change your attitude and you will eventually change your behavior. I don’t think this will be any small feet. I think we’ve trained our brains from childhood to think the way we do, maybe we were raised with over bearing parents, maybe a love in our life, hurt us so deeply that we began to self-doubt ourselves. But whatever it is that started this awful trend in ourselves, I know one thing for sure, we can break the cycle.
So: Do you ever realize the way you speak to yourself? Maybe you ought to listen….
Peace & love
Cause I’m not there yet, but perhaps, Soon Enuff….