I don’t know about ya’ll, but I’ve been extremely hateful to myself for the last couple of weeks. I’ve talked negatively to myself, which I know better then to do. I’ve not showered, I’ve been lazy, I’ve withdrawn from friends and family. And well, today, I’m putting a stop to it. A stop to the punishing of myself for things out of my control. Because after all, we can’t control everything that happens. But what we can control is how we feel in the moment of what’s happening. We can choose to be as happy or as sad as we want to. We can choose to make ourselves feel better or worse simply by changing the words we speak to ourselves.
Loving Words of Affirmation
We are harder on ourselves then any other person could ever be. The words we say to ourselves inside our own minds hurt us more then the words of everyone else. Start speaking words of affirmation to yourself instead of words of negativity. Here are a few examples: Okay, so it’s raining outside. Instead of saying, “Ugh, it’s so dreary, I’m going to be so down today because of this rain.” Try saying, “It’s raining outside, I’ll find something fun to do today inside to brighten my mood.” You know, it is what it is. It’s just rain. It’s not dreary, it’s not gloomy, it’s just rain. Here’s another one: “I look terrible. The lines on my face are getting deeper, my clothes are so tight they’re uncomfortable, I’ve gotten so fat and out of shape.” Replace that with, “I will start getting more sleep, drinking more water and less caffeine. Today I’ll make some better food choices, and get back onto my workout plan. Not because I look terrible, but because working out and eating right feels good, puts me in a better mood, and is so healthy for me and I love me.”
So you get the idea…It’s not that you won’t have negative thoughts, you will, we all do. And a big mistake a lot of us make is we just try not to think that way. But what’s important is that you take that negative thought, remove it, and replace it. If you don’t replace your negative thought with a positive one, you’ll continue to repeat the negative thought. Throw it out, stomp on it, but then replace it and smile.
Cause I’m not there yet, but perhaps, Soon Enuff.
Peace & love,
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I am a Certified Life Coach with specialties in surviving Psychological Abuse and Happiness Therapy.
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