None of us are magicians….
My very dear friend, Alfa Holden, wrote this: “The problem with love is, you can love who you want…but so can they.”
You know you can knock yourself out being the most beautiful, funny, caring, and loving person on the planet, and you still may not be the one for the person you love. I think it’s so important to grasp this concept early so that we realize there is nothing wrong with us, it’s just how life is. How many times did a boy/girl have a crush on you or actually fall in love with you and yet you had no feelings whatsoever for them? It happens. But when it happens to us we tend to take it a lot more personally.
When we fall in love with someone we go all in and it hurts like hell when it’s not reciprocated. But there’s no magic potion here. You can’t drop something in their water that makes them magically fall in love with you no matter how hard you try or how much you want it. In fact, often times, the harder you try to force something, the worse the whole situation becomes. I don’t think the other person even means to hurt us, perhaps they really want to love us back, but just as you cannot help your feelings, neither can they. It may not be that they’re in love with someone else, it’s just simply that they don’t share the same feelings you do, they aren’t in love with you.
So what’s the magic trick
So how do you get through this type of heartache? I truly believe that if you love yourself, if you know your worth, if you know you’re a beautiful soul, then you can get through it. You can slowly start to understand that it’s not you, you’re an amazing person, you just aren’t the one for them, and you have to let that heal you. The magic trick is really believing in yourself while letting the person go. It doesn’t mean your love ends, it just means you are moving on. Don’t stay in a relationship that you have to force, it will only hurt you and it will hurt the very one you say you love. You must believe with all your beautiful soul that love will one day be returned and the relationship will indeed be magical.
A little poem I wrote: “I hoped that somehow out of all the brokenness something good could come. That perhaps the heartache we caused could be undone. But you can’t keep pretending to look forward to something you dread, you’re no magician, you can’t bring life back to love that’s already dead.” @AmyLopez @LilBitsofMe22
I truly wish I could write a book titled, “Magic Tricks for Love.” In fact, I’m fairly certain that if you searched social media or google long enough, you’d most likely stumble upon that very book written by someone trying to take advantage of heart broken souls. However, it would be a big book of magical lies because there is no magic book and there are no magic tricks. Remember, believing in yourself, that’s all the magic you need!
Peace, love & happiness I wish for you!
Cause I’m not there yet, but perhaps, Soon Enuff….
You can follow my very dear friend, who is a wonderful writer and author of three Best Selling books, @alfapoet.com and on social media: FB: @AlfaHolden IG: @alfa.poet Twitter: @alfa_poet